I attended my last Griefshare meeting this week. One thing that came up was what kind of legacy do you want to keep/pass on from your loved one? There are things Chuck already passed down that I can’t touch: his love and knowledge of baseball, his love of chess. His faith is something that is still a constant with me, strengthening mine daily. But, then I thought of something else. Something he exhibited that I’ve had a hard time with. It’s something I want to embrace and pass on.
This legacy to me is the ability to not hold a grudge. Chuck was a very forgiving person. He talked me off the ledge of bitterness many times. He had to tell me to let go of things. It’s not that he never got mad at people. Or institutions. But, he learned to work through his feelings and move on.
And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. – Matthew 6:12